Judgement Day

We often think of judgment day as something that will come to us at the end of our lives. But the truth is, judgment day can show up when you least expect it—like on a random Wednesday afternoon while you’re out clothes shopping. It sneaks up on you, catching you by surprise. Suddenly, you find yourself in a conversation that makes you stop in your tracks, forcing you to reflect on everything you’ve done up until that moment.

Have you ever experienced this? I have—though most coincidences in my life haven’t been life altering. But there have been a few that shook me to the core and made me pause, diving deep into my own life until I could figure it out.

For the past five years, I've been on a healing journey, one that started just before I divorced my husband. This healing has been self guided, but also supported by some truly amazing practitioners. And in that time, I've moved through the typical stages of healing.

Stage one: You blame your parents for everything. You become the generational breaker, the one who will fix all the "bad traits" and mistakes of your bloodline. You feel like you’re your own personal saviour, your own Jesus for your family.

Stage two: You reach the conclusion that most of your friends aren’t “awake,” living in the matrix, or trapped in the status quo. You see yourself as enlightened, and they are still stuck in their old ways.

Stage three: You question everything that doesn't spark joy, à la Marie Kondo. And I’m not just talking about your closet—I mean everything in life. The work you do, the relationships you have, the way you live. If it doesn’t add value or spark joy, is it even worth your time?

I joke, but in a way, these are the stages we all go through. And it’s only when we step back and use our critical thinking that the pieces start to come together. We realise our parents did the best they could with the tools they had, and it’s not really their fault. You learn to empower yourself to break free from those patterns and create something new.

You also learn that not everyone is “woke,” and that’s okay. You don’t have to change who you are to fit in. You can still be your authentic self, even if your friends are having conversations that feel far from your new perspective. It’s about finding balance—meeting them where they are, without judgment, while maintaining your own growth.

And, yes, you realise that money matters, and sometimes you take jobs that might not be your dream career—because, well, we all need to survive. But the goal is to eventually build something that aligns with your passions.

As I continue on this journey of healing, I realise that we’re all just doing our best with what we have. Judgment day isn’t a one-time event, but rather a series of small, unexpected moments that challenge us to reflect, grow, and evolve. These moments—whether they come in the middle of a shopping trip or during a quiet conversation—are opportunities to pause and reconsider our lives, our choices, and what we want to create next.

It’s okay to not have everything figured out. The healing process is messy, confusing, and sometimes uncomfortable. But if we keep moving forward, stay open to the lessons life throws at us, and embrace the growth that comes with it, we’re heading in the right direction.

So, the next time you find yourself caught off guard, questioning everything, just know that you're not alone. We're all navigating this crazy, beautiful journey together. And remember, you don’t have to be perfect—you just have to keep evolving