The Art of Soaring
Choose Yourself and Rise
I’ve always been the person who said, “When this happens, then I’ll do that.” Always. It was a mindset that left me perpetually waiting, wishing everything into the future and leaving nothing for the present. But recently, in the process of moving house, I realised something—I’ve been making slow, meaningful changes to break free from this pattern. And that shift has opened my eyes in unexpected ways.
A conversation with a friend brought this realisation into sharp focus. They told me they were waiting for another person to change before they could truly commit to the relationship. It hit me like a lightning bolt. I wanted to shake them and say, “You’re missing the whole point! It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you. When are you going to change? When are you going to shift your outlook on life?”
As I heard those words echo in my mind, they reverberated back into my own life. How many times had I put my energy outward, waiting for someone else to choose me, convincing them why they should? The truth is simple but powerful: Choose yourself, and everything else will follow.
No one is going to change for someone else unless they genuinely want to. Putting all our energy into someone else is a cop out—a way to avoid investing fully in ourselves. Why? Because it’s scary. Scary to think of what might happen—or worse, what might not.
About a month ago, I made a commitment to live with no regrets. Sure, some might say I’m not fully there yet because I still allow certain people around me who might not serve my highest good. But it doesn’t matter anymore—those people can no longer hold my wings down. When your inner power grows, no one and nothing can stop you. Your soul takes the lead, guiding you to step boldly into your destiny.
Like everything in life, it’s a process. I’m running toward that metaphorical cliff, shedding all the excess weight, preparing for that final leap where I pull the ripcord and soar majestically into the unknown.
Am I scared? No, not anymore. I’ve been to the depths of despair too many times. I was on the edge of falling there again when a voice inside me screamed, “What for? Why are you falling again? There’s nothing left to learn down there. Everything you seek is up here—in the living.”
And that’s where I’m choosing to stay: in the living, in the present, in the now.
If you find yourself waiting—waiting for someone else to change, waiting for the perfect time, waiting for life to finally start—I invite you to ask yourself: What am I waiting for? Maybe it’s time to stop waiting and start living. Choose yourself. The world will adjust.
