Finding the Peace Within

The constant journey of self discovery

When you find inner peace, you see the world differently. I never realised how much I was letting my ego control me and how much self doubt and fear were part of my daily narrative. It wasn’t until I broke free from that cycle that I understood just how much my external environment was feeding that inner chaos. When I was constantly questioning my worth and seeking validation from others, it was so easy to get caught up in the negativity of those around me.

But once I found peace within myself, everything changed. I now have the clarity to see when I’m slipping back into those old thought patterns. I catch myself when I start to feel “not good enough” or “less than,” and I take a moment to correct my mindset. It’s not always easy, and sometimes I still fall into old habits, but I’ve learned how to break the cycle before it takes over.

One of the most miraculous moments came on my birthday, a day typically filled with celebrations and being surrounded by loved ones. But for reasons beyond my control, I found myself spending the day alone. At first, I felt hurt — the ego kicked in, and I began to feel like no one valued me enough to spend time with me. I started to let that self worth narrative take over, and my mind went straight into victim mode.

But something shifted. As I sat with myself, reflecting on the day, I realised the truth: My worth was never tied to others' actions. It wasn’t about the presents or the lunches, though those things would have been nice. It was about how I was choosing to respond. Instead of letting my ego continue to spiral, I chose to reflect on what truly matters. I asked myself the bigger questions: Am I happy? Am I in love with my life right now? The answer to both was no, and I promised myself that would change. I’m an outgoing, happy person by nature, but I was letting my environment, and someone else’s drama bring me down. That’s when I realised: I was playing the victim, but I was also the one perpetrator.

Since that day, my life has been on the upswing. I’m living for myself now, and while my environment hasn’t changed, I no longer feel trapped by it. I used to wonder why others were so angry at the world, but now I understand that the world is what we make of it. Stepping out of my own ego has given me a clearer view of how strong the egos of others are. I can see their inner struggles, their own battles with self worth, and I wish I could help them. I want to tell them, It’s all going to be okay.

I want to let them know that the anger, the frustration, and the pain they project out into the world is an over exaggerated version of what’s happening inside their minds — a self sabotaging narrative that only keeps them stuck. But as much as I wish I could make them see this, I know that life doesn’t work that way. We all have to learn it for ourselves. No one can truly teach us how to step out of our own egos or silence the internal chaos. It’s a lesson that comes from within, when we’re ready to hear it. And that’s the beauty of life — it’s a journey of discovery and truly learning to trust our inner voice, not the voice in our head.

Now, I feel blessed in my life. I allow myself to be grateful for my unique, beautiful, and sometimes messy journey. I understand that everything I’ve gone through, and everything others go through, is a part of this grand experience of life. It’s all part of becoming who we are meant to be. And I can only offer love and compassion to those still in the struggle, knowing that one day, they too will find their peace.