Trust is sacred
Growing up, I often heard people say, "Trust is everything. If you don’t have trust, what do you have?" But for the longest time, I didn’t truly grasp that concept. I trusted easily—almost instinctively—even those who had already broken my trust. I believed in the best of people and assumed they would act with the same integrity I offered them.
Looking back, I realise what I was giving away wasn’t trust—it was naivety. I was offering blind faith, not because it was earned, but because I didn’t understand the weight of what trust really meant. Over the years, friendships lacked depth, and relationships felt hollow. I kept giving my trust freely, but I didn’t understand that trust isn’t just about believing in someone—it’s about feeling safe in that belief.
It was only through self-growth and experience that I began to see trust in a new light. The moment that shifted my perspective wasn’t a single betrayal but a series of them, culminating in a significant moment that tainted what should have been a time of celebration. It hurt deeply, not because I was unaware of human flaws, but because I had to accept that trust, once broken, cannot be easily repaired. It requires effort, accountability, and a willingness from both sides to rebuild—something many people aren’t willing to do.
This realisation led me to redefine what trust means in my life. Trust is no longer about assuming the best in people without discernment. It’s about knowing that I don’t have to question someone's intentions, that I don’t have to wonder what they’re doing behind my back. True trust isn’t just given—it’s built. It comes from consistency, honesty, and mutual respect.
Some people believe trust can always be repaired with enough work, but I’ve come to understand that trust isn’t just about words or promises—it’s about actions aligning with those promises over time. When someone repeatedly breaks trust, they are showing you who they are, and it’s up to you to listen.
The lesson in all of this? Trust is sacred. It’s not about controlling others or living in fear of betrayal. It’s about choosing where to place your energy. Rather than exhausting myself trying to make sense of someone else’s choices, I choose to invest in my own growth, in becoming the best version of myself, and in surrounding myself with those who honour trust as deeply as I do.
Because when trust is honoured, it creates something beautiful—a foundation where love, friendship, and connection can truly flourish!
